Let us relearn emotional regulation,
a natural view of the world,
and ancient ways to relate with men,
so we can lead this generation back to wholeness.

We don’t want to lose our homes for the sake of power,
and we don’t want to give up power to keep our homes.

This is the internal marriage of Power and Love,
the indispensable dynamic for a truthful
and wholesome existence.

The people in power we have observed over the years have often leaned too hard on the side of power, so most examples are of what not to do.

They lack love, compassion, and a wholesome view of the needs of life and, therefore, of woman. Profit and more power are their goals, and despite their best reasoning, they can’t ever display fully embodied power because they are either men (who struggle with embodiment) or women that push their femininity down.
Or, they have the best of intentions and don’t know how to directly influence lives in a way that promotes growth, health and happiness. They act foolishly and direct their influence in low-return, low-impact ways, and eventually give up their power.

We struggle to know where the sweet spot between power and love is.

So we extrapolate one or both, and create a caricature of ourselves that either crumbles or hardens under pressure.
Some women embody the masculine and become overly harsh, critical, forceful and unyielding.
Other women can’t see the need for the masculine and fail to hold proper boundaries, stand in their strength, develop their own character and go after what they need.

As a result, our relationship dynamics become confused, our souls feel unfulfilled, and we start blaming our background, our genetics, our job, our environment, our significant others, even our destiny.

Our men suddenly seem weakly feminine or dangerously masculine by comparison.
We have mixed ideas of the future and feel confused as to what we should hone in.
We feel defeated when we are treated as fragile, and anxious when treated like we are strong.
We want to take down the wall and put up ten others at the same time.
We want sisterhood, but we become petty.
We can’t agree on anything, or agree to too much.
We lose connection to our roots, or we lose connection to our fruits.
In between all the mixed messages, we feel alone.

To reach a perfect balance is ephemeral.
Power and love continuously rise and fall, much like yin and yang give way to each other.
But the woman that can see through the fog and hold both is confident in her strength and nurturing in her love.

The fire that gives her power also warms her heart.
She knows her strength and doesn’t need to weaponize it.
She hears her emotions, yet won’t let them spiral into delusional stories.
She goes after what she wants, but slows down just enough to hold the hand of those behind her.
She doesn’t need the spotlight to feel seen.
She is fully seen in intimacy, she is held by the hearts of her community, she is supported by the cleverness of the best around her.
She prizes maturity but indulges in child-likeness.
Challenges push her limits, teaches her lessons, and then roll off her back.
She holds loyalty as a virtue she works towards, and is wise enough to know what not to be loyal to.
She has courage, not bravado.
She applies her intelligence to move with care, precision, and love.

She is not ideal. She is our potential.

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